• Everyday Life

    5 Questions to Help You Combat Fly Syndrome

    I recently wrote about something I’ve been calling fly-syndrome; our tendency to circle false light sources rather than God, the true source of our light. If you haven’t read that post yet, catch it here. I’ve been thinking about this issue a lot and wanted to come up with a plan to combat it. So here we are: the 5 questions we can all ask ourselves TODAY to fight fly syndrome.

    1. What are your light sources right now?

    2. What do you want to be your light source?

    3. What actions need to change to get you there?

    4. What mind frames need to be changed?

    5. What should you be praying for?

    Here’s an example:

    Maybe my light source at the moment is placing my self-worth in outward appearances rather than inward character. I want God to be my light source, so I have to make some changes. In terms of actions, I can take the small step of replacing online shopping with watching a Christian Ted Talk or youtube video. This switch out is small and manageable, not a huge leap like disconnecting the internet and moving to Antarctica. I also need to switch my thinking; maybe every time I think something negative about my appearance I have to say three positive things about my character and identity. Again, this is a small change up! I can pray for discernment in recognizing these damaging thoughts, or for strong role models in my life, or for God’s presence to be there while I’m trying to make these changes.

    I would love to hear what your light sources are, how I can help you, and how I can pray for you. Please let me know what you are struggling with in the comments!


    I am in the process of making a WORKBOOK to go along with this. It’s often very difficult to recognize what your light sources are in the first place, and I want to give you all some exercises that will help. If you’d like a free copy, please sign up here and I will get it sent to you right away!

  • Reading

    Book Club: 24/6

    I recently finished reading 24/6 by Matthew Sleeth. I enjoyed it immensely and wanted to share it with you all today.

    24/6 is called “a prescription for a healthier, happier life” and honestly, I don’t think that the title is too far of a stretch. The book is about making sabbath a habit and tradition, and about the author’s journey with the same.

    I was inspired by Sleeth’s commitment to Sabbath. He noted that if kid’s games or activities conflicted with Sabbath, it was the activity that went out the window rather than the commitment to God. I wish I could say that I do the same!

    This morning at my church we heard from Kevin Olusola of Pentatonix. He also practices keeping sabbath as part of his walk with Christ, and when Pentatonix was on tour with Kelly Clarkson they rearranged the tour schedule to accommodate his practice. He would not budge and told the rest of the group that he would quit before going on stage on the Sabbath. Again, I wish I was this strong about what I believe!

    What’s fascinating to me is how often we ignore the Sabbath. Most Christians I know do not practice the tradition, and those who do often practice a loose version where a few hours, rather than a full day, are set aside.

    In the bible, keeping sabbath is the fourth commandment. We remember to keep number 1 (don’t worship other beings) and number 6 (don’t murder) and number 8 (don’t steal), what makes number 4 so difficult?

    We have to keep in mind that Jesus fulfilled the law, so we are no longer required to keep Sabbath in order to earn salvation. However, that doesn’t mean that it isn’t still a good idea. Resting in God’s presence is always a good idea, and setting aside a consistent block of time to do so makes sense. If you’re interested in reading 24/6 and learning more about keeping sabbath, you can buy the book on Amazon here. If you’re more of an e-reader person, you can get a copy here.

  • Everyday Life

    Humans are just Big Flies / What is your Light Source?

    Last night I was reading in bed, and as I prepared to go to sleep I heard that familiar buzzing sound that meant a fly had found a home in my lamp. I turned off the light, and the fly left me alone. Why do bugs do this? They always buzz around and bounce off of lightbulbs until eventually the heat or the collision impact kills them.

    This morning, I looked it up. Flies (and other flying creepy things) navigate naturally by the light of the moon and stars. Because the sky is so far away, they can keep their light source at a certain angle to their bodies at all times. This worked out great until humans invented artificial light. Smaller light sources confuse the bug’s navigational signalling, and in an effort to maintain the proper flight angle the poor creatures end up flying in circles around the fake light source.

    If we take an honest look at ourselves, don’t we do the exact same thing?

    Our natural navigation systems like to keep us at a constant angle towards God. We are His creation, and our hearts yearn to return to Him. We want to fly in line with the moon! Instead, we let ourselves get distracted by smaller light sources. We want to follow God, and yet here we are circling around things that will ultimately lead us to destruction.

    A “lamp” in my life is perfection. Rather than angling towards grace and forgiveness, I angle towards impossible standards and defeat. Some people fly around wealth, some around beauty, and some around human love. We are such dumb little flies! Why can’t we see that the true navigation system for our lives wants to lead us and love us? All we have to do is stop following the lightbulbs and look towards the moon.

    What is a lightbulb in your life? How can you move towards following the true light source instead of an artificial one?

     

     

  • Worship Wednesday

    Worship Wednesday: Burn Out

    Does anyone else feel burned out? School years are winding to a close, finals are kicking or have kicked our butts, and every day something else crazy happens in the world. Life can be exhausting, and I am certainly feeling that right now. This weeks Worship Wednesday is an invitation into silence and solitude. After you finish reading, turn your phone or computer off and go into a quiet room without any distractions. Alternatively, go be alone in nature. Be still with God and listen to what He might share. Worship doesn’t always have to be elaborate bible study or going to a rock-style concert. We can learn the most by just sitting in God’s presence and meditating on what comes up.

     

     

  • Adventure

    A Trip to Joshua Tree National Park

    Photo by Brandon Grinovich
    Photo by American Alpine Institute

    After school ended I went on a quick little jaunt over to Joshua tree with my boy and two other friends. Let me just say, that place is weird. I had never been in a desert before, let alone a strange desert that looks like it’s straight out of a Dr. Suess book. But wow, did God’s glory show.

     

    The park lies at the intersection of two huge deserts: the Mojave and the Colorado. This mix-up of ecosystems at this location led to some unique species developing, like the Joshua tree itself. This tree is technically related to a lily flower, but it looks more like a palm tree/cactus hybrid.

    These trees grow in a desert that is at times completely empty and at times completely filled with mountains and boulders. There are strange stacks of rocks that Jordan and I decided look like a giant tried to make a drippy castle and then just let it dry in the desert heat.

    How cool is it the God is so creative? He can make anything He wants to. There are absolutely no limits on God, and Joshua Tree is just one example of how diverse and beautiful this created world is.

    Now think about this: The God that created this beautiful world also chose to create you. We are each filled with intricacies and differences that we can only scratch the surface in understanding. You are probably less like me than a Joshua tree is like an oak! God’s diverse world allows for each of us to exist, and exist fully loved, while remaining the complex individuals that we are.

    Seriously, how cool.

    I am so thankful for nature and trips and friends for always reminding me of God’s creative power. On a sappier (or cuter, depending on your perspective) note, I am so thankful to be in a relationship with a boy who wants to go on adventures with me and wants to seek out God’s glory in all things. Thanks, Jord.

    Photo by Brandon Grinovich

    To check out more of Brandon’s photography, go to his Instagram.

  • Collaborations,  College,  Guest Authors

    Faith in Community: Greek Life

    Recently I’ve been thinking about how our surroundings affect our faith. Who you interact with and what you spend your time on can have a huge impact on how or even if you connect with God. I took this idea to some friends and asked them about their faith within their campus community. The following is the third post in this series.


    Of all of the communities I am a part of, Greek life is the one that confuses people the most. “You’re in a sorority? How can you be in a sorority and be a Christian at the same time? Don’t you guys just drink and go to crazy house parties all the time?” The answer to that last one is obviously no, but some of the other questions are more difficult.

    I have found it relatively easy to maintain my faith while involved in Greek life, but I wanted to hear another perspective so I interviewed a sorority president here at Pepperdine:

    What is your faith background?

    My faith background is a bit peculiar. Both of my parents grew up attending church, but decided against that when bringing up my family. We didn’t start attending church until I was in middle school because my sister was having fears about death that my parents couldn’t answer. I retaliated at first , but eventually (aka after a few years) I began to like church and the community it brought. Although I was surrounded by Christians and Christianity, my faith didn’t become a part of my identity and life until freshman year of college.

    Do you feel that your greek affiliation has affected your faith (positively or negatively) in any way?

    My greek affiliation has without a doubt affected my faith positively. It was my sorority sisters that first started bringing me to church, got me involved in our sorority’s club convo, and opened the door to friendships with other greek women who have been foundational in my faith journey.

    Do you ever find it difficult to uphold your faith (beliefs, values, etc.) in greek life

    Occasionally my faith values have been challenged in the greek community, but I don’t find these challenges any different from ones I faced in high school or outside the greek community. The experiences have challenged me to stay true to my faith despite peer pressure, and I’ve learned that my sorority sisters are very encouraging and supportive of that decision.

    Do you ever discuss faith at greek events or with your sisters?

    Although not as frequent as I may have liked, I have had numerous faith conversations with different women of my sorority. I’ve loved getting to learn from and walk beside these other women.

    Do you think that faith should be more integrated or less integrated with your greek organization?

    My hope is to bring more of my faith into my Greek organization, and although it’s been difficult to maneuver with my position as President, I think it’s been a slow (but visible!) process. I’ve found that I can’t implement my faith into policies or even Chapter meetings, but what I can do is share stories of my faith with other women, hear theirs in return, encourage members to lead club convos, and continue living a Christian life, as best I can, in plain view of others.

    What advice do you have for currently affiliated members or potential new members who want to maintain their faith while involved in Greek life?

    I advise them to continue living an authentic life in Christ. By doing so, they will no doubt attract other believers, or even those who are simply curious, and create their own faith community within Greek life. I also encourage the members to find faith mentors within their sorority who can get them connected in other ways they might not have been aware of before. Lastly, joining your sorority’s club convo is always a good place to start.

    Anything else you’d like to say about faith, greek life, or your experience with those?

    As doubtful and strange as it may sound, Greek life has been an integral part of my faith journey. The women I have met in my sorority are the same women who brought me to faith my freshman year, and for that I am so grateful.

    If you want to learn more about Greek life specifically at Pepperdine, see here.


    Throughout this whole series I have been trying to show other students that a life of faith is not incompatible with a life in college community. You do not need to alienate yourself, and you can be part of whatever communities you wish. In fact, Jesus calls us to be in community with others. It may be difficult at times, but I believe that you can use those hard situations to grow your own faith and grow the Kingdom of God here on Earth.

  • Collaborations,  College,  Guest Authors

    Faith in Community: Athletics

    Recently I’ve been thinking about how our surroundings affect our faith. Who you interact with and what you spend your time on can have a huge impact on how or even if you connect with God. I took this idea to some friends and asked them about their faith within their campus community. The following is the second post in this series.


    I have to admit, sports have never been my thing. I danced for 15 years of my life, but I can’t do anything that requires throwing, catching, or hitting. Some people are definitely more gifted than I in the hand-eye coordination department, and my friend Ben Hancock is one of those people. He is a walk-on player for Pepperdine’s Men’s Volleyball team, and a religion major. I asked him some questions about his faith:

    What is your faith background?

    I was born and raised a Presbyterian.

    Do you feel that team/sports participation has affected your faith (positively or negatively) in any way?

    My participation in team sports has definitely shaped my faith in a positive way. Being able to participate in a team sport taught me a great deal about community, submission, humility, and love.

    Do you ever find it difficult to uphold your faith (beliefs, values, etc.) on the team?

    Occasionally, when the topic of discussion is something I find personally disinteresting or immoral, it becomes a dilemma between speaking out or being respected.

    Do you ever discuss faith at sporting events or with your teammates?

    Yes, before every game I do a little devotional and my teammates have asked questions or made comments that have created a platform to discuss faith.

    Do you think that faith should be more integrated or less integrated with your team?

    I think faith should be more integrated into the lives of all believers, particularly in sports.

    Do you have any ideas to implement your answer to the last question?

    Continuing to pursue God in a way that is visible yet not aggressive can provide platforms for discussion. Also, living my life in a way that is loving and self-sacrificial to the guys on my team is a primary role in building trust which can change cultures.

    Do you evangelize your team? Why or why not?

    I don’t actively talk about my faith unless I am asked, but I think living in a transformed way is evangelism in itself. Letting the guys know that they can trust me and that I care about them is a powerful way of sharing the gospel.

    What advice do you have for current athletes or potential athletes who want to maintain their faith while involved in sports in college?

    Pick your battles. Not every athlete is a Christian, but there are plenty who are. Our goal is to play hard, and love those even who do not believe. To be on a team with someone who does not share your beliefs is a great way to live out the gospel in a trusting and loving relationship.

    Anything else you’d like to say about faith, athletics, or your experience with those?

    Jesus loves sportsmanship. Chin up.


    I love what Ben said about changing our culture. Generally, people who are experiencing a disconnect with their faith and their community are really just battling a culture war. Sometimes these cultural norms are obvious, like if your friends commit crimes for fun, but sometimes they are more insidious, like the culture of negative self-talk among teenage girls. I believe that it’s up to us to shift these cultural norms so that our friends and communities can experience the fullness of life with Jesus. Ben said that he tries to live in a loving and self-sacrificing way so that his teammates can trust him, and trust has the power to change culture. More than that, being loving is already a culture-shift in some cases!

    Thank you, Ben, for you words of wisdom. I pray that you would continue to live in love for those around you!

  • Collaborations,  College,  Guest Authors

    Faith in Community: Music

    Recently I’ve been thinking about how our surroundings affect our faith. Who you interact with and what you spend your time on can have a huge impact on how or even if you connect with God. I took this idea to some friends and asked them about their faith within their campus community. The following is the first post in this series.


    Out of all of the various communities on campus, it seems as if the music community would be the most open to faith. Afterall, many of the greatest musical pieces in human history were written as praise to God. I am obviously making a huge assumption here, so I set out to see if I was right. I asked some questions to my suitemate to see what she thought about how faith plays out within the music department at Pepperdine.

    What is your faith background?

    I was raised in an evangelical Protestant home in southern California.  I accepted Jesus as my Savior when I was 4 and I was baptized when I was 7 (I think), but making my walk with Jesus a personal one is a long, ongoing process.

    Do you participate in music, drama, or theater?  How much time per week do you dedicate to this?

    I’m currently a music major at Pepperdine with an emphasis in vocal performance.  I practice independently for about an hour each day, and I am in choir for about 5 hours a week.  I’m also in a vocal studio class and a performance class every Wednesday.

    What is your favorite piece that you’ve worked on recently?

    Do you feel that music participation has affected your faith in any way?

    I had a voice teacher tell me once that musicians can show other people heaven when they create and perform.  I see God in the performing arts – people love art because it reveals truth, and I see the arts as a medium to convey the truth about our Creator (even if that truth is conveyed through secular works).  I’m pursuing music not just because I love it, but because I think it’s a way to turn people’s attention to the God who made it in the first place.

    Do you feel that your ensemble/group is accepting of your faith?

    Actually, yes – in high school, my choir teacher was also a follower of Christ, and I met a lot of my closest friends in choir through talking about important faith topics while sharing music with them.  At Pepperdine, the atmosphere is very different (perhaps less friendly? Maybe not that, I’m just less comfortable here), but it is still fairly faith-friendly, I think. It is a Christian university, after all, and I know that many people in my choir belong to some denomination of Christianity.

    Do you ever find it difficult to uphold your faith within the music community?

    Not really, no.

    Do you ever discuss faith at music events or with the people you do music with?

    Yes!  I have trouble not being the awkward string bean that I am and actually TALKING to people, but I’ve found that the people I’m closest to in the music department are people I can talk to about real issues.  My faith is such an integrated part of who I am and how I see the world, so I get along best with people I can share that with.

    Do you think that faith should be more integrated or less integrated with your group?

    This is an interesting question.  As a whole, I think that the music department is a lot more concerned about music than about God, which is understandable.  I know, though, that by putting music first, we place God in the backseat, which is not His rightful place in our lives. What people do as individuals is up to them, and I think that choir isn’t always the place to be spitting spiritual truth at people.  However, if God is at the center of our lives, He will naturally become a part of the group dynamic, both inside and outside the classroom. By integrating faith more into our personal lives, we Christians can be the lights of Christ all the time.

    Do you have any ideas to implement your answer to the last question?

    I think cultivating my own walk with Christ will help me be the person I need to be in the music department.

    What advice do you have for current or potential music students who want to maintain their faith while involved in music in college?

    I feel like I’m the wrong person to ask!! I suppose…

    let God be the center of your life.  Don’t be afraid to talk about Him. If He is the center of your life, He will be the center of your art (albeit not always directly).  Love people as He loves people, and show them the truth that you can while you are able to.


    From this perspective, at least, it seems that there aren’t many challenges to faith in the music department. My interviewee has difficulties expressing her faith sometimes, as we all do, but it doesn’t seem as if other students in the music community are unaccepting or would like her to change in any way. I’m curious to see if that will be the attitude within some of the other communities we will explore!


    There are a few amazing things I would like to highlight from this interview:

    • Faith walks are long and ongoing. In truth, they are never over.
    • Artists of all kinds can show other people a glimpse of heaven when they create and perform. How cool is it that God made our ears to hear certain sounds as beautiful, and see certain combinations of color and pattern as interesting?
    • When God is the center of your life you can love people more effectively AND have more effective art. Win-Win in my book.
  • Everyday Life,  Scripture

    And if not, He is still good.

    Do you all know the story of Shadrach, Meshach, and Abednego? Basically, three men refused to worship a golden statue of the king and their punishment was death by furnace. Nebuchadnezzar, the king, taunts the men and tells them that no god can save them. The men replied:

    If the God we serve exists, then he can rescue us from the furnace of blazing fire, and he can rescue us from the power of you, the king. But even if he does not rescue us, we want you as king to know that we will not serve your gods or worship the gold statue you set up.” –Daniel 3:17-18

    God has the power to save, but these men didn’t know if He would utilize that power. When they are thrown into the furnace, Nebuchadnezzar becomes alarmed because he sees a fourth man in the furnace along with the accused. It turns out to be an angel of God. The three men walk out of the furnace unharmed, and the twisted king converts.

    A touching story, right?

    But what would have happened if God didn’t save them?

    Shadrach, Meshach, and Abednego said it themselves: God might not save us, but we will still refuse to give up our faith.

    In daily life we like to think that we know best. We follow our routines and do our jobs, and if something goes wrong we pray for the outcome we desire. Here’s the problem: the outcome we desire isn’t always the perfect outcome that God has planned.

    This month I’ve been struggling with making a big life choice, and I’ve been praying for God to give me some sort of guidance. That’s the outcome I wanted: guidance from God so that I wouldn’t have to make the decision myself. God is capable of delivering that guidance, but it didn’t come. I became more anxious and confused with each “unanswered” prayer, and began to feel abandoned by God. But here’s the thing: just because I didn’t get my desired outcome doesn’t mean that God is no longer present.

    I didn’t get my desired outcome, but He is still good.

    By definition, God is good. Whatever He desires is the ultimate good, even when that doesn’t match up with what I want. We have to remember that God lives outside of space and time and can see the entire picture, while we live these finite little pieces of the gigantic complete puzzle. God works all things together for good, even when we can’t see it. He is there with us, even when we can’t see Him.

    Think of all of the times when God didn’t give you what you wanted. Were you angry and resentful, hurt and confused, or were you trusting and loving towards the One who is the ultimate good? I know I have been guilty many times of harboring doubt and negativity when things don’t work out how I prayed they would.

    Having unconditional trust in God is very difficult, especially when you’re struggling to see Him move in your life. If you are struggling with this, please don’t struggle alone. Often we can only be turned back to God by seeing how He works in others, and that is only possible in community.

    This week I will be focusing on placing all trust in God, and I pray that you would do the same. Walk with me, please.